My engagement ring is fresh on my finger however, as a wedding and event planner I have a hectic work schedule, which sometimes takes me overseas. This means I will be out of action during wedding and event seasons. I need to get a head start on planning prep, step in, super insane stress levels.
It would seem that my calm, level-headed planning mind, has completely left the building. In-fact, it has completely left the building, departed Earth’s atmosphere, and is now floating around in space somewhere. For those who read glossy wedding ‘how to’ blogs, sugar coating how it really goes down, well I can assure you, you won’t find any of that here.
I can honestly say I am shocked at my initial bridezilla and unreasonable planning approach. Spring is a popular wedding season, and our desired time of year. I am very aware we need to get a venue secured, 2020 is a popular year to get married. Yes, most venues have released their 2020 dates and they are booking up fast, we started getting enquires around May time for 2020 weddings. Eager bridal beavers.
My main issue, is my incredibly relaxed, so laid back he is horizontal, fiancé. I truly believe that Oliver thinks that this wedding malarkey is simple, and we can pull one out of the air four weeks before the big day. He had no time for my flower to foliage ratio discussion, does not understand the point of wedding favours (we are of course having them) and thinks that flower arches are ‘extra’. He will be the first to agree that he is utterly useless when it comes to organisation in general, so thankfully he has given me the planning reigns (clever boy).
For the past five years, I have been organising events and weddings in gorgeous venues, with amazing suppliers, only with one rather large difference. Money! I am usually working to a budget that is coming from somebody else’s pocket. Planning my own wedding is going to give me a whole different level of appreciation on what brides go through.
Also, I love my friends and family, but they seriously need to chill out. If I hear one more ‘oh my god I bet your wedding is going to be so beautiful because of your job’ I think I may actually lose the plot entirely. The pressure is immense, and completely adding to my current nervous breakdown. In total I have cried bridezilla tears four times, I think that’s pretty okay considering.
I had been engaged for around four days when I was given the ‘well you must invite’ speech from my mum. I love my mum; however, I can now completely relate to brides on a whole new level. My advice is usually ‘you invite who you want to invite’ and ‘it’s your wedding day, do what makes you happy’. Clearly, I am unable to take my own advice as I spent the rest of the week stressing about who I can bump from the list, in order to add the family friend who’s wedding I went to when I was nine. I am relieved to say that I quickly saw sense on this element. So again, for those who are getting married and are worrying over their guest list, don’t forget ‘your wedding, your rules’. I have a whole blog post dedicated to the dreaded Guest List that will go live in the next few weeks, keep an eye out!
The biggest hurdle I am currently struggling with is location. As we are open-minded and happy to consider options, this is actually a negative, it makes it difficult to actually pick one. We have our dream location in mind, but what if we miss the perfect venue that is in another location (yep see, irrational RiRi)? I am looking at venues in Surrey all the way to Nottingham, I need to shorten my radius!
I love all weddings, big, small, rustic, modern, each wedding is personal and there is no ‘wrong’ way. I am lucky that we both agree on the same style and theme; however, it is very clear that Oliver has suit, food and booze on his list, whilst I have every other bloody thing on mine. Some of you may be thinking, let him handle the wedding, or you probably think I am being a control freak, and you would be right.
I am all for grooms getting involved and yes, it is about BOTH of you. In my experience and in reality, 9 times of 10, the bride has the final say. Sexist or not it’s’ true, please note that I said 9 out of 10. A close friend of mine is also planning her wedding, her fiancé is so on the ball, he even created a ‘key words’ table (swoon), I think I should be marrying him to be perfectly fair. Unlike me she is happy to sit, back, relax and let him do most of the initial planning work!
I do not know what has happened, but I am fully determined to find my brain and put it back in my head.